AN OPEN LETTER TO MY FUTURE SON-IN-LAW

You scare me. If you can understand that I already love you more than I am adequately able to express. I have been praying for you for many years. I could not even imagine who God had planned for our daughter’s spouse but I am thankful that He chose you. The power and role you will have in our daughter’s life can strike up more fear in my heart that I have ever been prepared to deal with. You have the ability to help our daughter flourish into the woman she will become or the ability to crush her. Can you possibly understand how scary that is for me, as her mother?

I pray about you frequently. I will admit I have set high standards for you. I don’t mean that as a daunting task. For me to entrust you with our daughter under your leadership is one of the hardest things I will ever do. Raising her has been one of my greatest joys. Watching her marry you will be bittersweet. It is so hard for me to let her go. I love her so much.

I pray that you are a strong man of faith. I pray you are full of integrity and true character, along with honest and brave. I pray that you are gentle with my daughter. I pray that you will be an awesome father and that I will also pray that my daughter encourages you. I pray that you will be thoughtful and caring and I believe you are because I think my daughter has chosen wisely.

I have been married for quite some time now and I know how hard the work is. I understand, by watching my own husband, the burden a man has to provide, lead and love his family. I do see the fear and uncertainty a man must deal with. I pray that God will give you the necessary skills to lead gracefully and that God is always first in your life.

I believe I have done my very best to raise a daughter who will love you with her whole heart. I raised her to understand that marriage isn’t a fairytale but understands the true commitment of marriage and one that you don’t give up on easily. I have taught her to honor and respect her husband, to be a voice that builds you up. I have done my best to give her the knowledge I have. I know I won’t do it perfectly, I know she’ll make mistakes. Will you please handle her with grace and care? Will you please lead her gently to resolution and purpose? Will you please lead her to heaven?

At the end of your life-it is you son-in-law-whom will give an account for the way you lead and loved our daughter. Will you be given a good account for helping her like the servant-leadership of Jesus Christ? At times in life, you are going to feel like your wife is wrong. Please gently let her know she is wrong and not ignore her wrong-doings.

I am sure your Momma has done her very best as well. That is what Momma’s do! I pray for your Momma, that God has given her the grace she needs to raise you to be the man that God has intended for you to be. I pray that she and I can always love one another and can be both yours and our daughter’s biggest cheerleaders. I also pray that your Dad is a beautiful reflection of our heavenly Father. I pray you have learned becoming a man from a trusted, Godly man.

I said all of that to say, yes son, you scare me; entrusting you with our daughter will be one of the hardest things I will ever do. I am choosing to believe you are the spouse that God has chosen for our daughter and to whom she is called to marry. I am choosing, along with my husand, to continously pray over your relationship. Marriage is a sacred covenant. I am blessed to see the two of you in a truly, beautiful commitement, that leads your family to a beautiful, happy life!

Your future Mother-In-Law

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