There are so many things I want to say to you on this special day. Let me start off by telling you how much I love you. From the moment you were born, your Daddy and I have loved you unconditionally. We love you infinitely. You are loved by God and by so many people. You are loved by those of us here on this earth and those of us not. Learning to feel love takes a lifetime for many, me included. Please promise me that you will keep your heart open for love, ok?
WHAT IS MARRIAGE?
”So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one seperate.”-Matthew 19:6
Marriage is beautiful, yet it can also be hard. Marriage will have a little bliss and a little heartache but the heartache will make the sweet times seem so much sweeter. The rough moments will teach you about yourself. You will begin to understand your needs and wants, as well as your spouse’s needs and wants. You will learn to weigh your needs and wants, against your spouse’s needs and wants. Wanting it to be your way is human nature and does not make you a bad person, but you will need to set that aside sometimes and do what is best for your spouse. Your spouse will need to do that sometimes too.
CHOOSING GOD FOR THE CENTER OF YOUR MARRIAGE
Choosing God for the center of your marriage is very important! Pray together, studying scriptures together is great ways to help keep Christ in your marriage. I believe that you will find that love doesn’t just sit like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade new all the time. It is constantly carving out time to cultivating your relationship with your husband; whether that be making time for an at home movie night, a candle lit dinner at home, going to one of your favorite places together or a special night out to a nice restaurant or even making his favorite dinner or surprising him with a special gift, making time for one another is essential in your relationship.
WAYS TO KEEP YOUR MARRIAGE STRONG
Be available and be joyfully available for your spouse. You are the only one that can meet your spouse’s special need of intimacy. Don’t forget that he needs you.
If you have a disagreement, step aside and make sure you talk about it privately. Never have a disagreement in public, it can wait until your home.
Never tell your parents what your spouse has done to hurt you. It is easier for you to forgive your spouse than it is for your parents to forgive them of their wrong doing.
Seek marriage counseling when needed. We’ve all been there and at times, we need others to give counsel. Be willing to seek it together.
Let divorce never be an option in your marriage, even when your mad at each other. Always seek to work out your differences and keep Christ centered in your marriage.
HAVE FUN and LIFE TIPS
I know you will be that wife, cooking in the kitchen, singing into the spatula. You were made for this and God has given you an amazing man to spend your life with. Don’t ever forget when times get tough to have fun. Don’t let life dull your sparkle.
Live your life and laugh! Laugh so loud that your neighbor’s can hear your joy outside!
Don’t forget to surround yourself with good, Godly women.
Work BESIDE your husband, helping him to pursue his passions.
BE REAL, BE AUTHENTIC. Let your life speak for itself in how you live authentically.
BE TRUTHFUL. Never fear being the one who stands on truth. Lies always have a way of coming out. It is ok to make mistakes, but don’t live on those mistakes.
ASK FOR FORGIVENESS. We are all sinners. We all make mistakes. Not one person on this earth is perfect. Our Lord is so gracious!
Let God be first and you will be the wife you were meant to be.
ON YOUR WEDDING DAY
And on your wedding day, I’ll be standing there, watching you put on your makeup. Your bridesmaids will hover and the photographer will click and they will be helping you, including me. After all, you are my baby, my daughter and also my best friend. I will love you til the ends of the earth, my dear. There is no greater joy than having a daughter.
I love you with all my heart!