Today I am teaming up with our host, Terrie from  Decorating and More with Tip  plus several of our blogging buddies to do a Surprise Box Challenge. Rules: Take $10 to buy items that are challenging to make high end home decor. Required to use one item out of the box.



My friend  Emily  received my name and she sent me the following items: A card board gingerbread house, several styrofoam trees, along with several wood pedestal and mini christmas ornaments.



As soon as I saw the cardboard gingerbread house, I knew exactly what I wanted to do with  it! I already had a chalk pen on hand, so I decided to use the chalk pen as my “icing”. I knew I wanted to create a neutral pallete for Christmas decor in our camper.



I just began drawing the “icing” with my chalk pen. For the roof, I used a scalloped design, then decided to fill it in. I also lined all of the edges of the roof with the chalk pen to help define the shape of the roof. I did the same for the chimney!



For the windows, I heavily used outlined each window then added scallops to the edges and dots around the windows as well.



For the door, I heavily outlined the door, added an arch with a heart and dots.  Above the door, I added more dots and a heart.



For the trim, I added scallops around the top with dots. I free handed everything but if you don’t feel comfortable with that, you could always lightly pencil in then go back with your chalk pen.



For the back of the gingerbread house and the floor, I just added scallops, then sort of filled them in, leaving a little of the card board coloring to show through. So easy and fun to do!



I definitely wanted to make some Christmas trees to go with our little gingerbread house! I decided to make some yarn Christmas trees, as I had the yarn on hand as well! First, I glued the styrofoam trees to the wood pedestal’s, then began adding a small amount of hot glue on the trees and wrapping yarn around twicce. I think they turned out so adorable! My youngest two daughters love playing with them!



I had a blast creating this little christmas scene for our camper Christmas decor!! I would love for ya’ll to see what my other blogging friends have come up with for our Surprise Box Challenge!!



I hope I have inspired ya’ll to create budget friendly Christmas decor for your home! I always look around my home to see what I can upcycle as well! You never know what you can create with something you already have in your home!! Hop on over to Tara’s blog  to see what I sent her in her Surprise Box  Challenge! Please check out my other friends to see what they’ve created for their homes with our Surprise Box Challenge!


Terrie – Decorate and More with Tip

Tammy – Patina and Paint

Tara – Stilettos and Shiplap

Jodi – The House House

Mariah – Worcester Run

Shae – Sweet Southern Grace

Shayna – Robinson Repurposing

Jessica – Jessica B Simmons

Emily – LeCultivateur


Dylan – Dylan Kade’s Blog



[This post contains sponsored links. The items featured and linked, in this post is provided by Kirklands; all opinions and reviews are my own.]



What a beautiful time of year to celebrate being thankful and what better way to celebrate than with friends for a Friendsgiving Table With Kirklands! I have always enjoyed the holidays along with making them special, to spend with family and friends. My oldest two daughters would always say when they were kids that I was Martha Stewart and Better Homes and Gardens, all wrapped up into one. I have always enjoyed cooking for my family on holidays and add in decor with just makes my heart happy!


I always enjoy creating a tablescape with a budget! Remember to always use things you have on hand first, then head on over to Kirklands to grab your items for your tablescape! I created everything here on my table for less than $100! Join Kirklands K-Club to sign up to receive special offers like a birthday surprise, along with a points system to receive coupons and more! 



I usually always start my tablescapes with a main piece for my center. When I saw the Cream and Buffalo Check Pumpkin Garland, I knew it would be the perfect, simple centerpiece for my Friendsgiving Table. I love the green and cream hues of the garland. I am enjoying it’s simplicty  for our table as well. You could also add this garland to your mantel as well. 


You could also add the Cream and Buffalo Check Pumpkin Garland to a wood dough bowl on your table as well. It will help add demension and texture to your table. I chose to go without the dough bowl this time for a more simple look for my Friendsgiving Table. 



My absolute favorite line from Kirklands is their Simple Things line! I scooped up the Simple Things Dinner Plates  and oh how I love thier subtle speckle finish! I think that by using a neutral colored plate, it allows you to play around with colored napkins or a more colorful centerpiece! The Simple Things Dinner Plates can be so versatile in any type of decor! 



My Simple Things Dinner Plates pair beautifully with the Charcoal Plaid Columbia Napkins. What better way to compliment the napkins to tie in with the Simple Things Dinner Plates! These napkins will add a simple touch of charm to your Friendsgiving Table! I love their rustic charm! Kirklands napkins are budget friendly as well!



What better way to display your napkins but with Kirklands Wood Beaded Napkin Rings! I think it gives a beautiful detail to our Friendsgiving Table! Whites and woods are my favorite in decor! 



I could not leave Kirklands without picking up these beautiful Highball Hammered Glasses ! The glasses are also from their Simple Things line. I love their subtle texture yet they are so rustic chic! Perfection in my book!



I hope I have been able to inspire you with my Friendsgiving Table from Kirklands! If you like saving money like I do, you can sign up for Kirklands Loyalty Program and receive fabulous deals! 

Happy Friendsgiving!



“Brokenness is not about us. It is about what God can do with our brokenness to help others. You can be beautifully broken.”~Shae


It was Sunday morning. I decided to sleep in and I knew it was past my usual wake time of 4:00 am, as the sun was starting to rise. I awoke to several missed phone calls and voice mails from a number I did not reconize. It was from my eighteen year old daughter. She had left in the middle of the night and telling me via voice mail that she had left and was in a safe place. As soon as I heard that, I bolted from the bed and told my husband, “Our daughter is gone”…. I threw off my pajamas and added my usual tee and leggings. I told my husband that, “I am leaving to find her. I will call you.”. I pulled my car from the garage and quickly realized the number she had called from was from the same city that we lived in. I called the phone number back and the young night shift hotel clerk, answered the phone, “Sleep In?”…I asked her, “Where is your hotel located?” It was located just down the street from our home! Did she walk there? Who would have taken her there?


I pulled into the parking lot of the hotel, parked quickly and ran inside. I told the hotel clerk my teenage daughter had checked in here and I needed her hotel room number. I ran to her hotel room and knocked on her door. I asked her to open the door and I could tell she wanted to open the door but she was being spoken to by someone through a cell phone.


My daughter told me through the door that she had filed to get married the previous week and that she was legally married. I knew she seemed different the past month or so since we were moving four hours away. I now realize why she was different. Lies always have a way of coming out. I wish she could have told us what she actually wanted for her own life, instead of stretching the truth to other people, to get what she wanted for herself. I wish she could have told us that she didn’t agree with the rules of relationships in our home. With the craziness of selling our home, moving and finding my husband another job, I wish I would have asked her more questions. We do not remember her telling us that she did not want to move but we told her we would make every effort for her to see her fellow after we moved.


Saturday, the night before our daughter left, we had decided to rent a new movie. The young man she was courting was going to come over and watch it with us. Our daughter and her young fellow were on our sectional, not adhereing to our rules. One little sister told on them and I asked our daughter to see her phone. That is when I found a marriage license and I asked our daughter to come to our room. My husband asked her young fellow to leave. When asked about the marriage license, our daughter said, “I just wanted to fill out the marriage license to see what it looked like on paper and that we had no plans to get to married right now.”


The realization that our daughter was gone, came to a quick head. There would be no more late night chats or watching tv shows together or talking in the car on the way home. There would abruptly be no more cooking meals together or brewing up ideas on new recipes to cook or talking about the possibilities of what life had to offer her. No more Target shopping trips or adding balayage to her hair. No more family vacations or watching my oldest braid her sisters hair. No more learning Tic Tok dances together or talking about career choices. Family movie night would be no more, as our family of six, seemed to just vanish in thin air. There would be no more holidays together.

It all came to an end so abruptly that I thought I would be sick to my stomach, right there, standing in the hallway of my daughter’s hotel room. My mouth turned so dry that I couldn’t even swallow. I called my husband to tell him that I need him to come here. How would we tell our other children that their sister was gone?


We went from seeing and talking to our daughter, every single day, to not seeing or talking to her at all. In the last few months since she has been gone, we have seen her twice. Once for the wedding dress rehearsal and once for the wedding. Well, make that three times. The first time was “forced“ because we told her that it would be best for her sisters to see her once, before the wedding dress rehearsal. Her youngest sister, at her age, reconized that she did not even give her a “real” hug on that first meeting. When I saw her for the first time, I ran to her and hugged her and sobbed and told her I had missed her so much. She looked at me as if what I was doing was odd. That was an honest reaction to not seeing my own flesh for so long!

It felt like we were grieving a death. The very first night after she left, I sat in bed with my other three daughters. We held each other and cried and cried. At times in life, tears are words that we can not express. On the second night after our daughter left, her little sister believed it was her fault as to why her sister left because she had told on them the night her sister left. She began crying and had a panic attack. We told her that nothing was her fault and that even though her sister was wrong for leaving the way that she did, that her sister was just ready to be on her own. The days following, I openly cried with my daughters and my husband. One of the most painful things to go through as a parent is to watch your children suffering or in pain; knowing you can’t take that pain away from them is heartbreaking.


Learning through my own grief has had me one step ahead of my children, leading them as I learn. I wrote a blog on how to help children deal with grief, as grief can come in many forms. Grief will teach you things about yourself that you didn’t even know exsisted.  It can teach you to appreciate more, to love harder, to be kinder and to give unstoppable grace, as our Father has so graciously given to us. 


This is the day that I WANTED to stop believing in God. “Who is God?”, I asked myself. Is God just someone, that I was taught to believe in, while growing up in church or at Sunday School, as a child? Was He real? Was this book, the Bible, real? I asked God, “Why would you allow our family to suffer?”At times, I felt myself so angry with God. If He were real, why would He allow such these things to happen? I decided that I would stop believing in God. After all, I was programmed to believe in something that I wasn’t sure was even a real thing. I asked God to help me see His “supposed” good works. I asked God, “Can you show me, the good in people? Please allow me to see other people’s good works and allow it to be such a light to me, that I know your the one showing me.”


God began showing me in moments that would just pop up! I had courage to tell a friend what has happened. Do you know what my friend Charlene did? She opened her Bible and began a video, telling me this, “HE IS ABLE to protect what He has protected me with that day.” 2 Timothy 1:12. She prayed this with me, “Father, in the midst of hectic schedules, we come to you. What was supposed to give us more time seems to take more time to run. What was suppose to free us up seems to imprison us. And Lord, there are times when the only stability in the world is the Cross of Christ. So to that cross we turn, praying that you would give us the courage to do only what needs to be done in your eyes, through your power.”

I had another friend tell me that she had been praying for our family. I told her what has happened. Cindy told me this, “I know how hard it is to feel like God isn’t there at times. We want to know today or tomorrow but it will come. It is in our sinful nature to doubt things. I am sorry for what your family is is going through.”

My aunt told me this, “I know it is hard, all you can do is the right thing. Don’t look back and have any regrets. Lean on your faith and it will all work out.”

When my daughter called my Daddy, her Grandfather, to tell him that she left and was married and planning a wedding, my Daddy cried. He was just begining to get over covid. He was so sick that he thought he was going to die. My DADDY called me and told me this, “If I could die for you, right now, to take away your pain, I would. We love you and are praying for you.”

My best friend told me, “Give yourself grace. This isn’t an indication of your parenting or a failed attempt at parenting. It’s a decision she made all on her own.”

My husband’s sister, my sister in law, told me, “I know your Mama heart is hurting. I can’t even imagine. We are praying for ya’ll.”

My oldest daughter came up to me tonight, as I was writing this blog, gave me a hug and said, “I am sorry you are hurting.”

Another friend, Suzanne, reached out because she knew our family was going through something hard. Here is what she told me, “I am praying for you precious girl. If you hit a point you need specific prayer or just need someone to listen, call me and I’m always here.”

This experience has truly shown me the love our family and friends have for us. If it were not for this experience, I would not know how much they truly do care for our family. For that I am uterly grateful.


I have many scars from my own life. My scars have taught me to never trusted anyone. Can you imagine never really trusting anyone during your whole existance on this earth? Could God help me to begin to trust again? Are there actually good people in the world? This past year, I have realized, the reason why I have not been able to trust others in my own life is because of my own life experiences. Those life experiences have taught me, over and over again, to never trust anyone. I can remember from very early on in my childhood that I was constantly taught by experiences, to not trust adults. As I became an adult, that learned behavior has always stuck with me. Whenever someone would hurt me, it taught me or showed me that they didn’t really love me, so I wouldn’t trust anyone.


She had invited her sisters to be flower girls and a bridesmaid. Her Daddy would walk her down the aisle. Her sisters did not want to be apart of her wedding because of her actions. They were and still are hurting. If my daughter is reading this, I know this is hurtful to read. Just know that I made sure to keep you a postive light in our home. I kept encouraging them, telling them that it was the right thing to do and that we didn’t want to regret. At one point, on the day of the wedding, as we were getting ready, my oldest daughter broke down in tears. I asked her to take a walk with me outside and I told her this, “I know today is hard. We knew it would be, but let’s just get through it and be apart of it with no regrets.”

The bride to be didn’t want her mother to be apart of anything. I asked to help with decor or purchasing things for the wedding. The answer was no. I didn’t get to go with my daughter to try on wedding dresses or help her with any wedding planning. I didn’t get to help my daughter, as she got dressed on her wedding day or have the opportunity to get ready with her, on her wedding day. I knew it was my daughter’s way of hurting me. People that are hurting will hurt other people. I know now that it was her way of getting back at me. I had hurt her by calling her names during the previous year. After all, I derserved it and I am glad she treated me this way. I NEEDED to be hurt by her, so I could understand how much I had hurt her.


Do you think that parents can be broken by their children? I feel broken as a parent to our daughter. I love my daughter with all of my heart but she has always been strong willed to get what she wants for herself and will stop at nothing to get what she wants. This began emerging when she was about ten years old. The older she got, the more she lied to get what she wanted. A phone, at age ten, because she told us that she was the only one at school without one. As a teen, we had rules set into place about dating. She broke those rules, over and over again about dating and communicating with boys. She began lying to get whatever she wanted and it seemed like there was nothing we could do would stop her. Grounding her from her phone, tv, ect. She didn’t care because she only cared about getting what she wanted. The older she got, it seemed that we could not trust anything she said anymore. As she became an older teen then into her adulthood, her Daddy and I would literally tell her the same thing, over and over again, only to have her lie again. I finally realized after she was gone, that she had literally broken us, as parents, to her. There were several times during arguments that her Daddy and I called her names. This did not happen her whole life, only in the past year or so. We have made mistakes with her as her parents and have asked for forgiveness. Her cold shoulder was what I deserved on her wedding day as her mother.


So often when we are forced to endure hardships and as humans, we have a tendancy to make our brokenness about us. We ask God, “Why, me?” Hear me when I say this, may be, just may be this is the wrong question. What if instead of asking God, “Why me?”, we ask Him, “Who for?”. 

There are several examples in the Bible about brokenness. I am going to list a few but there are many more.

Peter denied Christ three times. Naomi was a widow. Jacob stole his brother’s blessing. Jonah ran from God.

I have experienced brokenness a time or two or three in my life.

     * I have been rejected, betrayed and neglected.

     * I have been hurt, mocked and shamed.

     * I have dealt with a child having multiple seizures daily and searched hell and high water to find  a doctor to help her.

    * My husband and I divorced and re-married. 

    * I have experienced the loss of a home. 

    * I have experienced job loss, when my husband was the bread winner and lost our only income.

     * I have suffered the painful loss of one of my pregnancies.

Yes, I have experienced brokenness, but I have come to understand that my brokenness is not about me. As a follower of Christ, we are called to be a blessing to other people. But, what if the blessing lies in our own brokennness?

”Verily, verily, I say unto you, except a corn of wheat fall unto the ground and die; it abideth alone; but if it die, it bringeth forth much fruit.” John 12:24

In Matthew 14:19, it says, “And he commanded the multitude to sit down on the grass and he took the five loaves, the two fishes and looking up to heaven, he blessed and brake and gave the disciples the loaves to his disciples and the disciples to the multitude.”

It is interesting that Jesus first gave thanks and blessed the loaves, BEFORE He broke and distributed them. I think that in order to comprehend the significance of this is to understand the definition of the word, blessed. 

Blessed means to consecrate; to make or declare something sacred. To dedicate to a divine purpose. I believe it is necessary that the life be blessed or consecrated first because life that is broken without being consecrated, remains broken, empty or stale. A life that is sanctified, when broken, will become food for the multitudes.

There is a direct correlation between the act of being broken and the production of fruit in our lives. The bread is broken and THEN multiplied. I do not believe we can have one without the other. They go hand in hand. 

“But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive.” Genesis 50:20

Our brokenness is not about us. It is about what God can do with our broken pieces to feed others. I believe we can be beautifully broken.


”The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those crushed in spirit.” Psalms 34:18

When we are broken, we are more open and more willing to listen to God. He will use these moments to reveal defects in our character, that would otherwise be difficult to see; and because we are willing to see those flaws, we are now able to ask God to help us have victory.

This reminds me of a story in the Bible about Peter who denied Christ three times. The Bible says that he “went out and wept bitterly” (Luke 22:54-62). In Peter’s sorrow, he was able to see his root issue. When he realized his flaw, he was convicted and broken in spirit. His brokenness led to true repentance and God was able to use him greatly. 

Have you ever noticed that when we have tests and trials that it tends to draw us closer to God? I believe it is because we realize that our pain will not go away without God. 

Matthew 11:28 says, “Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden and I will give you rest.”

In our brokenness, we seek Christ. Our testomony give hope and stregthen faith. It is evidence of God’s faithfulness and his redeeming power. Our testimony helps believers and non-believers, see physical evidence of what God can do in someone’s life. It is actually the message of Christ made visible for everyone to see and believe that He has come to set the captives free.


The song, “Lost without you” by Frey’s Ridings can describe how I have felt these past few months. I know this song is about a lost relationship between a man and woman but if you can apply it to loosing a relationship with your child, it will describe the heartache that is felt. 


“Our job is not to deny the story, but to devy the ending-to RISE strong, RECONIZE our story and RUMBLE with the truth until we get to a place where we think, yes. This is what happened. And I will choose how the story ends.”-Brene Brown

I have no control over the outcome but God does and I believe that He will use this for His purpose. It is extremely painful to have people, all of our family and friends, come to me, telling me all the things, that my own flesh and blood, my daughter, has said against her Daddy and I. My heart is heavy for her. I pray for her heart, that God will convict her of her wrong doings.

This is my story, this is my truth and I choose what happens with my life. I accept that I have the possiblity of never having any contact with her again. Our family has accepted this as well. Instead of being angry, I choose to pray for her daily. I choose to pray for the adults that are now in her life everyday. I pray for her spouse daily.



There goes my heart beating
‘Cause you are the reason
I’m losing my sleep
Please come back now
There goes my mind racing
And you are the reason
That I’m still breathing
I’m hopeless now

…I’d climb every mountain
And swim every ocean
Just to be with you
And fix what I’ve broken
Oh, ’cause I need you to see
That you are the reason
There goes my hands shaking
And you are the reason
My heart keeps bleeding
I need you now
If I could turn back the clock
I’d make sure the light defeated the dark
I’d spend every hour, of every day
Keeping you safe
And I’d climb every mountain
And swim every ocean
Just to be with you
And fix what I’ve broken
Oh, ’cause I need you to see…


If you are reading this, I love you. I am sorry. I have, at times, failed you, as your mother and just like any other person or mother, I am human and I am beautifully broken. I have made mistakes, as have you, my daughter. Please do not allow mine or your Daddy’s mistakes that were such a small portion of your life, to define our relationship, as we will not allow your mistakes, to define your relationship with us. We have had plenty of good memories over the years. Lots of birthday celebrations and holidays, dance recitals and graduation, along with family vacations., plus so many in betweens! I hope that you account our “rights” and not just our “wrongs”, as we have done for you, as well. You are worthy. You are forgiven. You are loved. Never forget that.

I choose to be beautifully broken and so can you. I love you!


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How to Install a Board & Batten Wall

I have been wanting to create a board and batten wall for quite some time now. I jumped at the chance when The Home Depot reached out and asked if I would be willing to work with them! I knew exactly which room would be the perfect spot for a board and batten wall! My number two daughter and I had just re-decorated her room in a boho style so I knew that by adding texture to the wall, that it would add  more of the bohemian flare! This is a quick weekend project and budget friendly as well! You can use the link above and enter code “THANKSGIVING20” at check out for 20% off select Furniture, Textiles, Mattresses and Decor from October 22nd-28th, 2020. 


Let’ s Build a Board & Batten Wall

Products needed for the wall:

* 1×2’s for the Vertical Primed Wood 8 Foot

* 1×3’s for the Horizontal Primed 8 Foot

* 1.5 inch Brad Nails

PPG Timeless Paint

*Paint Brush, Paint Roller Assembly and Tray

*Tape Measure



Tips on Buying Boards

When buying boards, hold the boards to your eye to make sure they are straight. We chose the primed boards because they were already sanded and primed, thus making this project a easy weekend project!

Step 1

Measure  the length  of your wall to find out where your center of your wall is located. Once you find your center of the wall, you want to mark that center measurement. 


Step 2

Decide how far apart you want your boards to be apart and mark that measurement with a pencil. Ours will be 16 inches apart.

Step 3

Measure the height of the wall. 

Step 4

Now that we have all of our measurements for the width and the height, that will tell us how much material we will need, based on the length of the boards, at The Home Depot. 


Step 5

After shopping at The Home Depot for our supplies, the next step is to add your board along the top of the wall and ceiling.


Cut your pieces based on your measurements. We cut our boards with a miter saw. 


Step 6

The  next step is placing the vertical boards on the wall.  


Place the vertical center board on the wall first and make sure the board is level. We chose to have our board and batten, 16 inches apart. We made a 14.5 inch board, for a spacer board, to go in between each board and batten. It will help keep your board and batten on center and helps to keep them straight as well.


Next, begin placing your board and batten on both sides of your center board, making sure each board is level. 


Step 7

The final step is painting! We chose PPG Timeless Paint in the color, Chinese Porcelain. It is the 2020 Color of the Year paint! PPG Timeless Paint is a innovative new formula that makes it even more washable! It has a complete one coat hide, coverage and durability, making it perfect for a weekend project! It also has outstanding washability, scrubbability  stain resistance, making it perfect for our family! You can pick it up at The Home Depot.


The first step in painting is to trim out, all around your wall, baseboards and around the board and batten pieces. My oldest daughter helped me paint! 


After trimming everything out, I used a small roller to roll the remaining area of the wall.  This was my first time using PPG Timeless Paint and I absolutely loved the one coat coverage and the vibrant colors, they have to offer! I also appreciated the low odor and low voc.

The finished wall, as it was drying! I could hardly wait for it to dry so I could style the room! 


Finished Board and Batten Wall

I am loving this weekend project of our Board and Batten Wall with The Home Depot.


It was quick and budget friendly! I love the texture that the board and batten adds to our daughter’s room! It definitely gives a beautiful flare to the bohemian vibes of this room! 


Final Thoughts

Have you ever thought of doing a board and batten wall in your home? Do you have any board and batten walls  in your home? I’d love to hear in the comments below! if you have any questions, please let me know in comments. I hope you have enjoyed following along with us on our DIY with  The Home Depot! 

Love, Shae

An Open Letter to My Daughter on Her Wedding Day

There are so many things I want to say to you on this special day. Let me start off by telling you how much I love you. From the moment you were born, your Daddy and I have loved you unconditionally. We love you infinitely. You are loved by God and by so many people. You are loved by those of us here on this earth and those of us not. Learning to feel love takes a lifetime for many, me included. Please promise me that you will keep your heart open for love, ok?


”So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one seperate.”-Matthew 19:6

Marriage is beautiful, yet it can also be hard. Marriage will have a little bliss and a little heartache but the heartache will make the sweet times seem so much sweeter. The rough moments will teach you about yourself. You will begin to understand your needs and wants, as well as your spouse’s needs and wants. You will learn to weigh your needs and wants, against your spouse’s needs and wants. Wanting it to be your way is human nature and does not make you a bad person, but you will need to set that aside sometimes and do what is best for your spouse. Your spouse will need to do that sometimes too. 


Choosing God for the center of your marriage is very important! Pray together, studying scriptures together is great ways to help keep Christ in your marriage. I believe that you will find that love doesn’t just sit like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade new all the time. It is constantly carving out time to cultivating your relationship with your husband; whether that be making time for an at home movie night, a candle lit dinner at home, going to one of your favorite places together or a special night out to a nice restaurant or even making his favorite dinner or surprising him with a special gift, making time for one another is essential in your relationship. 


Be available and be joyfully available for your spouse. You are the only one that can meet your spouse’s special need of intimacy. Don’t forget that he needs you.

If you have a disagreement, step aside and make sure you talk about it privately. Never have a disagreement in public, it can wait until your home. 

Never tell your parents what your spouse has done to hurt you. It is easier for you to forgive your spouse than it is for your parents to forgive them of their wrong doing.

Seek marriage counseling when needed. We’ve all been there and at times, we need others to give counsel. Be willing to seek it together.

Let divorce never be an option in your marriage, even when your mad at each other. Always seek to work out your differences and keep Christ centered in your marriage. 


I know you will be that wife, cooking in the kitchen, singing into the spatula. You were made for this and God has given you an amazing man to spend your life with. Don’t ever forget when times get tough to have fun. Don’t let life dull your sparkle. 

Live your life and laugh! Laugh so loud that your neighbor’s can hear your joy outside! 

Don’t forget to surround yourself with good, Godly women. 

Work BESIDE your husband, helping him to pursue his passions. 

BE REAL, BE AUTHENTIC. Let your life speak for itself in how you live authentically. 

BE TRUTHFUL. Never fear being the one who stands on truth. Lies always have a way of coming out. It is ok to make mistakes, but don’t live on those mistakes. 

ASK FOR FORGIVENESS. We are all sinners. We all make mistakes. Not one person on this earth is perfect. Our Lord is so gracious!

Let God be first and you will be the wife you were meant to be.


And on your wedding day, I’ll be standing there, watching you put on your makeup. Your bridesmaids will hover and the photographer will click and they will be helping you, including me. After all, you are my baby, my daughter and also my best friend. I will love you til the ends of the earth, my dear. There is no greater joy than having a daughter.

I love you with all my heart!




You scare me. If you can understand that I already love you more than I am adequately able to express. I have been praying for you for many years. I could not even imagine who God had planned for our daughter’s spouse but I am thankful that He chose you. The power and role you will have in our daughter’s life can strike up more fear in my heart that I have ever been prepared to deal with. You have the ability to help our daughter flourish into the woman she will become or the ability to crush her. Can you possibly understand how scary that is for me, as her mother?

I pray about you frequently. I will admit I have set high standards for you. I don’t mean that as a daunting task. For me to entrust you with our daughter under your leadership is one of the hardest things I will ever do. Raising her has been one of my greatest joys. Watching her marry you will be bittersweet. It is so hard for me to let her go. I love her so much.

I pray that you are a strong man of faith. I pray you are full of integrity and true character, along with honest and brave. I pray that you are gentle with my daughter. I pray that you will be an awesome father and that I will also pray that my daughter encourages you. I pray that you will be thoughtful and caring and I believe you are because I think my daughter has chosen wisely.

I have been married for quite some time now and I know how hard the work is. I understand, by watching my own husband, the burden a man has to provide, lead and love his family. I do see the fear and uncertainty a man must deal with. I pray that God will give you the necessary skills to lead gracefully and that God is always first in your life.

I believe I have done my very best to raise a daughter who will love you with her whole heart. I raised her to understand that marriage isn’t a fairytale but understands the true commitment of marriage and one that you don’t give up on easily. I have taught her to honor and respect her husband, to be a voice that builds you up. I have done my best to give her the knowledge I have. I know I won’t do it perfectly, I know she’ll make mistakes. Will you please handle her with grace and care? Will you please lead her gently to resolution and purpose? Will you please lead her to heaven?

At the end of your life-it is you son-in-law-whom will give an account for the way you lead and loved our daughter. Will you be given a good account for helping her like the servant-leadership of Jesus Christ? At times in life, you are going to feel like your wife is wrong. Please gently let her know she is wrong and not ignore her wrong-doings.

I am sure your Momma has done her very best as well. That is what Momma’s do! I pray for your Momma, that God has given her the grace she needs to raise you to be the man that God has intended for you to be. I pray that she and I can always love one another and can be both yours and our daughter’s biggest cheerleaders. I also pray that your Dad is a beautiful reflection of our heavenly Father. I pray you have learned becoming a man from a trusted, Godly man.

I said all of that to say, yes son, you scare me; entrusting you with our daughter will be one of the hardest things I will ever do. I am choosing to believe you are the spouse that God has chosen for our daughter and to whom she is called to marry. I am choosing, along with my husand, to continously pray over your relationship. Marriage is a sacred covenant. I am blessed to see the two of you in a truly, beautiful commitement, that leads your family to a beautiful, happy life!

Your future Mother-In-Law


When we experience loss or grief, it can so often catches us by surprise. Grief can come in many forms, including job loss, death in the family or non-death losses, natural disasters, developing a life threatening illness, death of a family pet, being exposed to combat or warzone, break-in or robbery, family seperation, ect. These things hit us out of nowhere and we feel utterly helpless as to how to deal with them, let alone how to help our children deal with their hurt.


This past year, we experienced grief in our family.  This experience was heart breaking and I wanted desperately to take away my children’s pain. I immediately knew that our children would need age appropriate information about what was happenning. Our kids needed to know that we loved them and that they could speak openly to us about what was going on. I openly wept with my children and feel that it is ok for children to see that adults cry sometimes too. 

I know that I don’t have all the answers. It’s hard, I know. I do find myself a step ahead of my children-leading them as I learn. Often times, this is our greatest teaching, when we are showing as much as we are telling. When we are learning bravely and trusting bodly, we are right beside them!

I am choosing to trust God with my hardest hurts, my greatest questions!  I know He will use this for His good. That trusting becomes a quiet showing as our children have a front row seat to see how we respond to all the things that shake us.  THIS is actually an opportunity to further introduce our children to the very grace that is healing my heart. 


I believe the key to navigating hard, desperate, painful places with our children is to let them know we are here. We do not need to have all the answers. We just need to grab their hands and help to gently point them in the direction to the very Lord that is healing our heart. I believe that trusting our All Mighty God that is big enough to heal all of hearts at the very same time. 


*The Heart and the Bottle by Oliver Jeffers

*My Big Dumb Invisible Dragon by Angie Lucas

*Big Cat, Little Cat by Elisha Cooper

*The Rabbit Listened by Cory Doerrfeld


”In this world you will have trouble, but take heart..I have overcome the world.”-John 16:33

”The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”-Psalms 34:18

”You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears and recorded each one in your book.”-Psalms 56:8


”We run from grief because loss scares us, yet our hearts reach toward grief because the broken parts want to mend.”-Brene Brown

”It’s crazy the amount of time we spend trying to avoid these hard topics when they’re really the ones that can set us free.”-Brene Brown

“Belonging so fully to yourself that you’re willing to stand alone is a wilderness-an untamed, unpredictable place of solitude and searching. It is a place as dangerous as it is breathtaking, a place as sought after as feared. The wilderness can often feel unholy because we can’t control it, or what people think about our choice of whether to venture into that vastness or not. But it turns out to be the place of true belonging, and it’s the bravest and most sacred place you will ever stand.”-Brene Brown


I hope that as you navigate through your grief and your children’s grief that are you are able to find comfort in the Lord and have found help here on the blog! I think that by sharing our experiences with each other, that we can only help others that are dealing with similar experiences. If you have any questions, please feel free to reach out!

Love, Shae





Natural and Simple Fall Home Tour

Gather autumn inspiration from our natural and simple fall home tour that is loaded with farmhouse, rustic charm and lots of diy’s.

Fall Front Porch 


Although the fall weather is just beginning here in Alabama, I am loving the crisp fall days and watching the leaves begin to change. Fall is by far my favorite season! I am excited to join a few other ladies on instagram to share their fall home tours as well! Please make sure to visit the other fall homes over on instagram! For my fall front porch, I added fall mums, pumpkins, pillows and a cozy blanket! Add a couple signs and your fall porch is ready for the fall season!

Fall Dining Room


If you dropping by here for the first time, welcome! My name is Shae and I live in Birmingham, Alabama with my husband and our four daughters, along with our pup, Tinker Belle. We have worked so hard to transform our house into a home. Lots’s of diy’s fill our light and bright home, characterized with farmhouse charm. One of my favorite projects in our home is the designing and building of our farmhouse table in our dining room. We even designed and built the light fixture as well.


Since it is just beginning to feel like fall here, I really wanted to have a more simple, natural approach to my fall decor. Plus, I knew we would be moving in mid October, since we just recently sold our home! Simple sounded like a breath of fresh air with the swirl of moving in the back of my mind! I kept everything as neutral as possible then added a couple muted tones of orange with fall pumpkin pillows, a blanket then several multi-colored fall eucalyptus pieces. I always enjoy styling my dough bowl for each season.

Fall Kitchen


I really wanted to keep my seasonal additions in the kitchen neutral and simple. If you are a regular, you may have noticed how we have completed this space as more of a rustic farmhouse look. If you haven’t caught the posts about our kitchen, check out the renovation process HERE . We painted the CABINETS inside and out, with my diy chalk paint. It made an incredible difference! I even did the concrete countertops by myself! Of course, the farmhouse sink is my favorite thing about our kitchen renovation! For the fall decor, I added the muted toned, eucalyptus in a hanging basket and kept everything neutral from the wood colored baskets to the live plants! I also added a few pumpkins on the counter and one of my fall curated candles that you can purchase here.  Sometimes simplicity is best! 

Fall Family Room


One thing that I am really going to miss about this room is our ship lap wall! This wood is around 100 years old and I love the white wash that I added to it! The white wash just brings in so much more texture to the focal wall! In this room, I added several fall pillows in that same muted orange. I also added another fall blanket that helps tie in the colors of the room.


I can’t forget about the fall florals on the mantel from Kirkland’s! You can find that post  HERE.  One of my favorite smaller diy’s that my husband and I did a few years ago was our Pumpkin Patch Sign. Lining up and gluing on all of those letters, just above drove our OCD-selves crazy but we did it! This sign also doubles as a Christmas Tree Farm sign on the back! I have used this sign in our decor for the past three years and I still love it! DIY’S with my husband will always be my favorite because we create in together and with love for our home! 

Fall Half Bathroom


This little farmhouse half bath still gives me all the heart eyes! This was one of our first diy’s in this home! You can read all about how we transformed this Half Bath Makeover Under $180! Whites and woods are definitely apart of my love language when it comes to decor. My husband and I made the frame and the shelves from 100 year old barn wood. Leaving them with this house definitely makes me sad but knowing that the new homeowners will appreciate their beauty makes me happy!


Fall decor was definitely kept simple in our half bath, as I added the muted eucalyptus and a couple glass vases with fall florals from Target.

Fall Laundry Room


I feel you can never go wrong decorating any space in your home, as long as it gives you joy, go for it! That is exactly what I do, when decorating this little shelf in my laundry room! I love having a beautiful space to wash and  dry my family’s clothes! It is such a blessing to me!

For this space, I added a fall wreath along with a few pumpkins and that beautiful fall eucalyptus! Simple, budget friendly and you can use it every year and even add to it yearly as well!


I hope ya’ll have enjoyed our Natural and Simple Fall Home Tour! I sure have enjoyed sharing our fall spaces with you!

Laura over on her blog

Adriana over on Instagram

Rachel over on Instagram

Divya over on Instagram

Suman over on Instagram

Please let me know if you have any questions! 



Pop Up Camper Remodel

Pop Up Camper Remodel

Last year, February to be exact, we bought a 22 year old pop up camper for $500 on Facebook Marketplace. 7232F62F-38D2-4DBB-8DEF-BF3B247FD681We knew this camper was a diamond in the rough! We dreamt of all the family vacations we could take in this little pop up. 


We took the pop up home and popped it up.D24D2384-69E4-4B61-8579-724ED8458C12We knew initially that it had some water damage and after some research, found out that these types of campers with ABS roofs, leaked.
67475424-8AA2-480F-AAC8-AF5D48D0B3DDThe roof  leaked because of the weight of the AC unit on top of the roof.
79088843-12EF-478A-9FA9-9D2050470CE0So right out of the gate, it looked like we needed to find a solution to help the roof not sag, plus we would need to replace the entire roof. 




My husband found a solution for the sagging roof and it was going to be by placing two, 2 inch u-channels on the interior of the roof.


We then left the camper popped up on a day when it was raining to make sure it would not leak! It worked! No leaks!


Next step was to replace the roof. We tore off the ABS roof then replaced it with a fiberglass top and painted it with marine paint. You can find that you tube video HERE . In this picture, you can see two coats of the fiber glass roof material on the roof.




For the interior, my husband needed to replace several sections of rotted wood. One was the top on the small cabinet by the entryway, part of the floor at the entrance, a section of wood beneath the bed, by the shower plus a small section on the seated area.



After replacing the wood, it was finally time to paint the entire inside of the camper!


We painted everything, including the ceiling, in Ibis White  from Sherwin Williams. We took off all of the cabinet doors to make the painting go a little easier. I decided to spray paint all of the hardware and knobs to save cost.



Next was making all of the cushion covers for the camper. I decided to use the existing cushions & zippers, since they were in good shape.

5C5AC292-ECB3-4349-9698-3156F055B44FI did use the attachment to my carpet cleaner to clean the cushions and let them dry in the sun. I found all of my fabric on sale at Joanne’s for $50. I used two coupons! I did not have a pattern for the cushions, so I used the existing cushions as my pattern, by laying the fabric on top of the cushions and left about an inch for seam allowance on all sides.


We could not use the old mattresses that came with the camper but we did find some mattresses at a local discount store for $19.99 each! We bought plastic mattresses covers to protect them at Home Depot for $8 each.


We purchased our bedding from Beddy’s and they are an absolute dream! Absolutely perfect for campers! Ours is the Modern Gray All Cotton. Beddy’s has given me a coupon code for y’all to use! If you use SSG20 at check out, you can get 20% off your purchase! Thank you Beddy’s!


We have not replaced our pop up camper curtains with the typical camper curtains.

8177E0D1-EFF8-49AE-B934-78F300E0225DWe did use a few sheers from Wal-Mart that we attached with double sided adhesive strips, just to give a more “at home” feel to the camper. I bought two sets, as each set came with two.


The shower only needed a cleaning and a new faucet.

3FF31442-B55B-4DF2-A637-A682E598EEFASome of our paint has chipped by the shower area but it’s not a huge deal to us since this is a camper.

F1E1A5C9-4E17-49DD-8C69-9035F7D6FF51We ordered the new shower faucet from Coleman Pop Up Parts.



4D5039D0-85D1-4F1D-AAE9-F68A9EF38AE7I decided to use stick down floor “hardwood” vinyl “planks”. I even staggered it to make it look like hardwoods. I bought two boxes for $15 each, at a local discount store called Ollie’s.


F06D3A41-E0B3-414A-B776-2E5CAC539A8FOur biggest expense in our makeover was new canvases but we felt like it was a must have! We ordered them from Bear Creek Canvas . Their site is so easy to use! All you have to do is select the camper manufacturer, ours is Coleman, select the model year, 1997 for us, select if you want a complete canvas replacement or partial canvas replacement, ours was a complete replacement, then select your camper style, such as a no wing model, 1-4 wing model or a pickupper, ours was a 2-wing model. Once you have all of that selected, it will give you your price for the replacement. Our total was $1,050.00. The customer service was also wonderful!


9172C203-98C6-4DC5-A985-9FBA13113C9CI even painted the inside of the door with half of black chalkboard paint so we could have a menu board. We already had this paint on hand!


The exterior also got a paint job from head to toe! We painted the exterior with a marine paint in Repose Gray  from Sherwin Williams. (We only use SW for all of our painting needs!) We had lots of helpers that wanted to help remove the old vinyl from the exterior of the camper and help paint!


Leaving out for our first trip in the camper! 



We also replaced the tires on the pop up and purchased a new spare tire. The old tires were in good shape but we just wanted to make sure we had new tires, since we were driving so far away on our first trip. The best deal we found on tires were at Wal-Mart on sale for $26.99 each.


Fort De Soto, FL



Most all of our accessories for our pop up came from a local Five and Below store- from our little stool, to the rug, to our outdoor mat.



About 3 weeks before our first camping trip, our pop-up would not stay popped up so we had to order a Coleman Wiffle Tree Alternate. We were praying it would come in before our trip and that it would be the only issue and be resolved quickly with this new part! Thank God it worked and in just about 3 days before our trip! We purchased that part from .



We spent a total of around $2,300 on our pop up makeover. Here is a breakdown of the costs:

$500-Pop Up Purchase Price






$125-Fiberglass Roof


$20-Shower Faucet

$50-Fabric for Cushions

$30-Vinyl Flooring

$5-Wood Colored Caulk for floors

$144-Wiffle Tree Alternate-Part for lifting camper up


Wesley & I in Egmont Key at the lighthouse.



It was a lot of work but we are so glad to have little pop up to travel in! Definitely a bucket list item! Our two adult daughters helped us so much and we could not have done it without them! Definitely a family effort! You can read about some of our travels here . If you have any questions, please email me! What is your favorite thing about our renovation of the camper?


Beddy’s  Bedding COUPON CODE: Use SSG20 at check out for 20% off your purchase! Perfect bedding for a camper, bunk beds or any bed really!!

DIY Fall Wood Sign from Scrap Wood

DIY Fall Wood Sign from Scrap Wood

Hey ya’ll! I was invited to team up with several talented ladies for a challenge this month that is hosted by Terrie from Decorate and More with Tip . The challenge rules were to take a piece of wood and make anything fall décor related. I knew the perfect piece of scrap wood that we had leftover from the tv accent wall. This wood is 100 plus years old and just stunning!


I have been wanting a cute wood picket fence type fall sign for awhile, so when Terrie invited me on this challenge, I knew I had the perfect piece for the project! I gathered all of my painting supplies and got to work!


I used craft paints and small brushes from Hobby Lobby that I already had on hand.


I also lightened the colors I had with Ibis White that I had on hand from Sherwin Williams. I accented everything in black to bring out all the pumkins cute-ness. I also highlighted with white.


I am so blessed that God has given me the ability to paint! When our oldest two daughters were younger, I painted canvases to make extra money, along with wall murals.


I hope you enjoy our blog hop! Check out my friends too! They have amazing talent!




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