HELPING OUR CHILDREN DEAL WITH GRIEF

When we experience loss or grief, it can so often catches us by surprise. Grief can come in many forms, including job loss, death in the family or non-death losses, natural disasters, developing a life threatening illness, death of a family pet, being exposed to combat or warzone, break-in or robbery, family seperation, ect. These things hit us out of nowhere and we feel utterly helpless as to how to deal with them, let alone how to help our children deal with their hurt.

HELPING OUR CHILDREN DEAL WITH GRIEF

This past year, we experienced grief in our family.  This experience was heart breaking and I wanted desperately to take away my children’s pain. I immmediately knew that our children would need age appropriate information about what was happenning. Our kids needed to know that we loved them and that they could speak openly to us about what was going on. I openly wept with my children and feel that it is ok for children to see that adults cry sometimes too. 

I know that I don’t have all the answers. It’s hard, I know. I do find myself a step ahead of my children-leading them as I learn. Often times, this is our greatest teaching, when we are showing as much as we are telling. When we are learning bravely and trusting bodly, we are right beside them!

I am choosing to trust God with my hardest hurts, my greatest questions!  I know He will use this for His good. That trusting becomes a quiet showing as our children have a front row seat to see how we respond to all the things that shake us.  THIS is actually an opportunity to further introduce our children to the very grace that is healing my heart. 

THIS IS A GIFT

I believe the key to navigating hard, desperate, painful places with our children is to let them know we are here. We do not need to have all the answers. We just need to grab their hands and help to gently point them in the direction to the very Lord that is healing our heart. I believe that trusting our All Mighty God that is big enough to heal all of hearts at the very same time. 

BOOKS TO HELP WITH GRIEF

*The Heart and the Bottle by Oliver Jeffers

*My Big Dumb Invisible Dragon by Angie Lucas

*Big Cat, Little Cat by Elisha Cooper

*The Rabbit Listened by Cory Doerrfeld

SCRIPTURES THAT OFFER COMFORT

”In this world you will have trouble, but take heart..I have overcome the world.”-John 16:33

”The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”-Psalms 34:18

”You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears and recorded each one in your book.”-Psalms 56:8

QUOTES THAT HAVE HELPED ME UNDERSTAND GRIEF

”We run from grief because loss scares us, yet our hearts reach toward grief because the broken parts want to mend.”-Brene Brown

”It’s crazy the amount of time we spend trying to avoid these hard topics when they’re really the ones that can set us free.”-Brene Brown

“Belonging so fully to yourself that you’re willing to stand alone is a wilderness-an untamed, unpredictable place of solitude and searching. It is a place as dangerous as it is breathtaking, a place as sought after as feared. The wilderness can often feel unholy because we can’t control it, or what people think about our choice of whether to venture into that vastness or not. But it turns out to be the place of true belonging, and it’s the bravest and most sacred place you will ever stand.”-Brene Brown

FINAL THOUGHTS

I hope that as you navigate through your grief and your children’s grief that are you are able to find comfort in the Lord and have found help here on the blog! I think that by sharing our experiences with each other, that we can only help others that are dealing with similar experiences. If you have any questions, please feel free to reach out!

Love, Shae

 

 

 

 

Autumn Inspired Mantel with Kirklands

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Adding Autumn Inspiration:

I am in appreciation of Kirklands beautiful and bold fall florals this season! You will love their bright assortment of fall florals on display in your entryway , mantel or dining room. It is simple to add small fall florals to spaces throughout your home. I chose to use several fall bushes from Kirklands for my fall entry mantel.

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 Kirklands Fall Florals: 


I knew I wanted to add our Pumpkin Patch sign with some of Kirklands stunning fall florals!!


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The first floral piece that I started with was the Wildflower Bush, which is my main center piece for the fall florals. Its beautiful and bold , setting the tones for my fall colors in my home this season! The next two pieces are the Yellow Foam Berry Buds Bushes. The yellow compliments the Wildflower Bush, perfectly! I added each of those to eiter side of te Wildflower Bush. I also picked up two of The Flower Bar Green Bushes. They no longer have The Flower Bar Green Bushes but the Lemon Stem would make a great alternative! wanted some greenery to drape over the cedar mantel.

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Kirklands Fall Pillows:

I knew I wanted to help welcome the crisp, cool days of fall into our home with a few of Kirklands fall pillows. You will love how their pillows will help add that autumnal touch to your entry, mantel or couch! Perfect for snuggling up with a soft blanket and a movie. Oh, and dont forget a cozy fire right beside the ones you love! My favorite time of year begins now with fall through Christmas. I love decorating our home for the fall season for our family to enjoy!

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White Knit Pumpkin Pillows

The White Knit Pumpkin Pillows makes adding a few cozy fall accent pillows to your harvest collection, a festive autumn addition.  I love the pop of muted orange with the texture of the white knit pumpkin. Perfect for your entry, dining room chairs, couch or even your fireplace. Add a cozy fire and a few smores and your all set for the season!

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Welcome To Our Pumpkin Patch Accent Pillow

The Welcome To Our Pumpkin Patch Accent Pillow is perfect for our fall entry mantel. I love that by adding a autumn accent pillow, how it brings a festive fall touch to any space! Hues of orange and cream with a featured embroidered border. The Welcome To Our Pumpkin Patch Accent Pillow ties in seemlessly with the our mantel’s orange fall tones, blending with all the fall florals. Muted oranges and yellows along with creams and a hint of green!

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Plaid Pumpkins Stitched Accent Pillow

The Plaid Pumpkins Stitched Accent  Pillow just gives me all the fall feels, as it makes the perfect autumn addition to our fall pillows from Kirklands! With hues of gray, orange, red and green, it could be used in your autumn decor, throughout your home. Try it in your entry, your bedroom or your couch. 

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Fall Entry Mantel Complete:

I am thankful to be enjoying these beautiful pieces in our home from Kirklands. They have decor to fit so many different styles and at great prices too! If you have any questions, please let me know! Which item is your favorite? Please let me know in the comments!

Love~Shae

Updating Door Knobs and Door Hardware with Kwikset & National Hardware

Updating Door Knobs and Door Hardware with Kwikset & National Hardware

[This post contains sponsored links. The items featured and linked, in this post is provided by Kwikset and National Hardware; all opinions and reviews are my own.]

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We have been working on many projects during quarantine! A couple easy and affordable ways to update your home is with door knobs, deadbolts and hinges! They may not be the first thing your eyes jump to when walking in a home but it can instantly breath new life into a home, while making it feel unified and cohesive. Take new door knobs, hinges and new paint on your doors /trim and you’ve got a winner winner chicken dinner!

Door Knobs Before 

Our door knobs were the brass door knobs from the 90’s with a mixture of updated lever satin nickel door knobs.

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Now…I thought I would do a “smart” thing, several months back and spray paint my door knobs/hinges, well let me tell ya, that did not work! Complete fail! 

Kwikset

When we began the process of looking for door knobs, I researched all the companies that carried door knobs, dead bolts and all the things! What I found was a company that has been around since 1946. Kwikset is a company that is committed to delivering unmatched security features to homeowners and puts their customers’ safety above all else. Kwikset continuously improves the security features in its products to meet or exceed industry standards. Plus, with Microban and the lifetime mechanical and finish warranty, it’s a win win in my book!   

Selecting Hardware Finish 

When I began looking for what style of door knob we wanted, we knew we wanted to go with satin nickel hardware  throughout our home. We also wanted a style of door knob that we felt would be classic and timeless!

Electronic Deadbolt 

For our front door, we decided to try a electronic deadbolt.

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We chose the Satin Nickel 888 Smartcode Electronic Deadbolt with Z-Wave Technology for our front door and absolutely love it!!!

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Reasons We Love Our Smartcode Electronic Deadbolt:

  • Z-Wave Plus Certified with the Z-Wave 500 chipset
  • Extended wireless range and superior 128-bit wireless encryption
  • Up to 30 user access codes for family and guests to use at the door
  • Secured keyless entry convenience
  • One touch locking
  • Dramatically reduced interior size and sleek metal design
  • 30 user codes plus master code feature for added security
  • 5 digit keypad with dedicated lock button
  • SmartKey® technology – the lock you can re-key yourself in seconds in three easy steps
  • 30 user codes plus master code feature for added security

Exterior Doors

For our other exterior doors we chose Cameron Security Set in Satin Nickel. One of the best features about these sets is the Smart Key feature, which allows you to re-key your lock with any KW1 Keyway Key!!

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Bedroom & Bathroom Door Knobs 

We choose the Satin Nickel Cameron Knob  for our bedrooms and bathrooms.

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Love the finish and it also installs so easily!

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Beautiful quality for your home!

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”I feel like hardware is like the “jewelry” to your home! It adds just the perfect finishing touch!” ~ Quote from my friend,  Cindy .

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Close up!

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With Microban, germs are scared to hang around on our door knobs!

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I feel like the Cameron line flows seamlessly throughout our home!

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Last bedroom (full view).

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Girls Bathroom

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Close up!

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Closet/Hall Knobs 

We also chose the Satin Nickel Cameron  line for our Closet Knobs. I love the Cameron line so much!!

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Walk-In Attic Door Knobs

For the attic doors, we wanted to make sure we had a door that locked with a key. With little ones still running around, we didn’t want them to get into a space that they didn’t belong!

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We chose the Satin Nickel Cameron Knob Keyed featuring SmartKey for all three of our walk-in attic doors!!

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Close up!

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National Hardware 

National Hardware prides itself on being an industry leader, continuing to launch high quality, innovative products that exceed industry standards. Their products are meant to withstand the harshest weather elements with WeatherGuard™protected products. WeatherGuard™ provides superior long-lasting corrosion protection – 3x more than standard zinc.

Security Latches

One other item we knew that was needed since our youngest child likes to open exterior doors, is security latches on all of the inside of the exterior doors.

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We chose the Security Guards  in Satin Nickel.

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Satin Nickel is my favorite finish! Can you tell?

Hinges: Interior 

Updating the hinges were a breeze!

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In fact, our oldest adult daughter actually installed all of the interior door hinges & knobs! Girl power!

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We chose the 512rc Door Hinges  in Satin Nickel.

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Hinges: Exterior 

For the exterior hinges, we chose the 512rc Door Hinges  in Satin Nickel.

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All of our doors and trim received a fresh coat of paint as well! I just feel like these updates make a huge impact on our home’s appearance, overall! I truly love making our house into a home!! Thank you so much for taking your time to read today! If you have any questions, please reach out!

P.S. If you can spot the “blooper” or the item (s) out of place, comment here and if your correct, I will send you one of our handmade wood cutting boards!

❤️-Shae

 

DIY Grapevine Magnolia Wreath

DIY Grapevine Magnolia Wreath

DIY Grapevine Wreath:

It’s always a pleasure to team up with my friend Terrie from  Decorating and More with Tip for one of our decor challenges! This week we are challenging ourselves along with several other bloggers to make our own version of a grapevine wreath!

Gather Your Supplies-

I started off with a plain grapevine wreath that I found from a local thrift store, back a few months ago. You can also order online from any craft store. Micheal’s has this one for $4.99!

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Next, I purchased these magnolia leaf bushes from Hobby Lobby for $8.99 when they were half off. Just wait for the sale!

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I also decided to paint a few of my leaves to take away some of that brighter green in the wreath and just tone down the overall look of the leaves. I purchased three paints colors from Wal-Mart in the Apple Barrel brand acrylic craft paint, in the colors, Melted Chocolate, English Ivy Green and Kings Gold. These colors are just fifty cents each.

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Creating Your Wreath-

To create my wreath, I began taking apart the magnolia leaves and hot gluing them to the grapevine wreath, angling the leaves in different directions, to give dimension to the wreath.

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After I had all of my leaves placed into my wreath, I went around the entire wreath and painted a few leaves of the Melted Chocolate  ,  English Ivy Green  and Kings Gold .

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This is the wreath with just the Melted Chocolate brown leaves painted.

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This is the wreath with the Melted Chocolate brown and the English Ivy green painted on the leaves.

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For the lighter green, I mixed Kings Gold and English Ivy Green, both with equal parts.

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After painting the leaves, here is the finished product!

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Now to style in my home!

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I decided to style on my antique door in my dining room! I love how my wreath turned out!! It’s perfect for my space!
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Please hop over to my blogging buddies to check out what they designed for their grapevine wreaths!! My friend, Mary from Shady Oak and Sassafras  has the cutest wreath so please check her out! I am also loving my friend Pamela from DIY Vibing  .

❤️-Shae

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